The bottom line is the NDE can be said to be a very private and personal experience – as private as a person’s clothes, hair color, language, size, etc. While these differences in humans do exist and their NDEs reflect this, it can still be said the underlying reality is this: a human is a human, not an elephant. NDEs are NDEs and not daydreams. NDEs, while different from each other, are still basically the same for everyone. In the same way, humans are humans despite their differences. NDEs are NDEs despite their differences.

Although there are many differences in NDEs, there is one concept appearing in an overwhelming number of NDEs making it practically universal. The concept is that what matters most in life is how much love you give and receive. Many NDErs say this is really the determining factor between having a positive NDE or a having negative NDE.

In conclusion, the differences in NDEs suggest to me they are a real afterlife experience. These differences are important because they show the afterlife to be dynamic rather than static. The same can also be said about life in general. The NDE appears to be just as dynamic, if not more dynamic, than our physical experience. If all NDEs were exactly identical, it would make the dying brain theory more appealing. It would mean the NDE is "hard-wired" in our brains. Because NDEs are different, this suggests the NDE is not a "hard-wired" experience in the brain, but rather a dynamic afterlife experiences. In general, what you get out of life is what you put into it. The same is probably true of the afterlife.